Trauma is Needed Right?

Trauma is needed, right? Just look at Steve Jobs. The Mac was essentially created from his trauma, and he is still beloved...as much as a human can be. Steve Jobs was given up for adoption shortly after birth and struggled to gain acceptance his whole life...maybe never fully achieving it in his mind. The whole Mac ecosystem, everything being under complete control, and the closed system, all stem from being put up for adoption at an early age and the desire for control. So....I guess trauma is a good thing? Right??

Let's look at a different person, the greatest golfer of all time, Tiger Woods. According to "The Times," Tiger Woods' father "treated his son as a prisoner of war to toughen him up." When Tiger Woods was six months old, his father would hit golf balls in the garage, and every time he was successful, Tiger's mother would feed him. This is okay, right? Because Tiger Woods is so successful that this type of treatment was necessary to become GREAT...right?

There's that word again: successful.

Steve Jobs did not develop a healthy relationship with his own daughter Lisa, and Tiger Woods had a long string of affairs even when "happily married." Here is the question: what is success? We all have great qualities, and we all make mistakes. The problems occur when we see someone as a success and we never acknowledge their shortcomings. When we look at him/her, they are such a success; we feel a sense of envy without the recognition of how they got there or their own personal struggles.

Here's a question: if I offered you 10 million dollars but your kids won't like you anymore, would you take it? Or if I offered you a magic wand where you would be the greatest athlete of all time, but you have to stop playing sports...would you take it?

In order to have success, we need to first be grateful for what we have and second, DEFINE what it is. Here we need to be specific. I am not sure that the mother who loves all of her kids and did a great job raising them is less "successful" than a Steve Jobs. Is she less happy? What trauma is necessary for success?